Essence of relationship

We are social beings and we cannot imagine leading a solitary existence. Staying and relating with others gives us a sense of security. We are also emotional beings and again need others to satisfy our emotional requirements. Hence the two basic reasons for a relationship to happen are two: -

1.   Security
2.   Emotions

A typical relationship begins between two individuals with attraction. Attraction leads to acquaintance. Acquaintance leads to love /hate and this powerful emotion leads to transformation. This transformation makes a bond between two individuals. This bond may have positive or negative connotations to it.

Today all of a sudden a lot is being said and written about relationships. Almost everyone seems to be dealing with relationship issues. Whatever may be the relationship –between parent and child, brother/brother, brother/sister/husband/wife, friends or boyfriend/girlfriend, student/teacher, neighbors, servants the list is indeed unending, the essence seems to be missing. Fighting, cheating and selfishness is plaguing all relationships. Doctors, psychologists, counselors astrologers, etal are busy doling out prescriptions and tips to gullible, busy and short sighted individuals. 

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It is not that the people of this millennium do not value relationships but have deviated from the path of magnanimity and patience; they seem to have become self-centered and intolerant. In a vain attempt to become happy they have lost the beautiful virtue of LOVE. “Its my LIFE” everybody seems to be shouting from the rooftop and “Will lead it in the way I want. “This is paradoxical, as we already know that we are social beings and our sense of security and love depends on those related to us. We may enjoy temporary happiness by distancing ourselves from our loved ones but deep down we remain unhappy souls and try to find happiness in trivial things. In the end we get exhausted and start looking up for new relationships and the cycle is repeated if we do not honor and value our relationships and say out aloud “It’s our life and I empathize with others too. “In my opinion if we are honest and sincere in even one relationship, all other relations get sorted and receive the Midas’s Touch! Another very interesting fact is that we are always talking about relationships vis-à-vis others only and miss out on another important relationship i.e. with our own selves. OWN SELF? Yes, even if we consider ourselves to be only mortal beings, we hurt ourselves by hurting others; long after something bad has happened we keep torturing ourselves by remembering it, blaming others for our unhappiness, sometimes begin the vicious circle of revenge even. If we really loved ourselves we would actively digress from these self-harming habits. This clearly shows if we do not love ourselves but expect others to do so!!And if we consider ourselves as divine beings with the divine spark in us, even then we are going against our very nature- of being unconditional in love. To remain happy and loving everyone is the natural state of our Being. To be unhappy and hating others is an abnormality. It is time we got rid off this abnormality and established ourselves firmly in our natural state of LOVE. Love is the quality of the Divine and acts as cement to bind relationships. Yashoda bound Krishna with motherly love and Krishna showed her his Virat Roop, Arjun bound Krishna with friendly love and could drink nectar in the form of Gita Gyan. Gopikas bound Krishna with devotional love and Krishna showed he was always with each one of them at the same time. This is the most powerful precept for any devotee! Such is the power of love! So any relationship can blossom if we are in our true form (swaroop) and unconditional love flows for our fellow beings as they are also none other than ourselves in a different attire! However, as some of us may find it difficult to fathom this philosophy, here is a simple tip to improve relationships—LOVE.